************************************************** WEBSITE PUBERTY No, it's not gonna grow up and turn into a conservativelongskirtwearinglattedrinkingdustyoldhag - no. Just changing, growing but not up. It's gonna get sweatier and hairier! plump and full, with a big ass. There's a new layout, new artwork (reallyfunkycomicbookstyledart)and new sections. You can look forward to: 1) "Off the Record" (posting songs in the works), 2) "Little did They Know!" (candid videos, sound bites and pictures from my entourage), 3)"Boyz and Girlz" (profiles of new band members, and other artsies I wind up collaborating with).
Look OUT! It`s gonna be sexxxy, so come check it out.
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NYC, ain`t it the best place evahh...
The VV seems to have other ideas,sayin Bleecker`s never been Bleaker with it`s upscale boutiques, instead of restaurants with owners pretending to be Greeks, and the city not watching out for the little people (New Yorkers--not so little! i don`t mean size).
I skanked to Chelsea, sang a little song that I wanted to sing - and I wished it was different on my part - the ladies there seemed kinda drained and far - but it was alright - yeah, coulda been better - but it was alright. I found Central Park a Sudan Aid Worker, and wine, up to the Upper East side and a brilliant couple made dinner - it was loverly!
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Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Monday, August 6, 2007
Parenthood, Montessori and 'the onion theory'
Chatting last night with a friend about Montessori and her ventures in teaching at a school. We were talking about the main ideas - what she felt to be the foundation of the Montessori philosophy.
It was about offering a child respect and thinking of each child as an individual and respecting that individuality, catering to it. Allowing the child to then be clearer on their wants and needs by recognizing the difference between manipulative behavior and their real identity- to help them be honest and true to themselves, at the core. Basically, to get past that whole 'onion' concept of growing layers when encountering the world, layers that separate you from yourself and shelter you from the world.
If it is in fact a successful strategy, I know a lot of people that ought to go to Montessori school - and they're not 5 or 6 - myself included.
And she said these kids learned and took to these ideas well - until the parents came back and then it was chaos again.
Reviewing all the times I'd been cursed to have a child like me and terrified to have that dysfunctional relationship - I got to wondering about 'good' parenthood. And to repeating paranoid mantra 'I'll never have kids, someone knock some sense into me if I do'. And how come parents can't just read a damned Montessori book or something!? I don't mean to come off glib - I've thought about this one a lot - actually. So I suddenly found myself falling head first into a strange idea...
Are parents even meant to be 'teachers'? Is it even possible for them to be the kinds of mentors and resources that an outside teacher can be? I don't think so.
is that dark and fatalistic?
eff you! what do you know!? :P
No, really - How - realistically - is it possible for a parent and a child to be so separate that they could recognize one another's identities in any real way?! because the primary basis of a parent child relationship is a confusion of identity - it's an extension of origin, a confusion of origin and telos - of the beginning and the end.
I don't see how anyone could remove themselves from that breakdown of subjectivity
and objectivity in order to be a good parent. In order to see the child for who they are. Well, ok, let's not be grand and sweeping and silly about it - I'm sure there are parts of a child's identity a parent can recognize and grasp - but how much of that is because they recognize it in themselves or their partner or uncle whoever, whatever? At any rate, there's a WHOLE LOTTA projecting usually going on! (ever time I say that word now, I think of how in 5 years it'll be such a dated, new age hippie term..lol)
There's no such a thing - the more you confuse and derail your child, potentially the
better. Actually, before I get hate mail on that - what I mean is, that parenthood is what it is, good or bad, it's meant to be that way, they are the beginning
of who you are - and anything positive or negative they impose on you will produce an equivalent reaction. So it's all fair.
It just - is what it is.
Family is a relation, and I don't think it needs a value judgment beyond that.
It's functional, at best.
It was about offering a child respect and thinking of each child as an individual and respecting that individuality, catering to it. Allowing the child to then be clearer on their wants and needs by recognizing the difference between manipulative behavior and their real identity- to help them be honest and true to themselves, at the core. Basically, to get past that whole 'onion' concept of growing layers when encountering the world, layers that separate you from yourself and shelter you from the world.
If it is in fact a successful strategy, I know a lot of people that ought to go to Montessori school - and they're not 5 or 6 - myself included.
And she said these kids learned and took to these ideas well - until the parents came back and then it was chaos again.
Reviewing all the times I'd been cursed to have a child like me and terrified to have that dysfunctional relationship - I got to wondering about 'good' parenthood. And to repeating paranoid mantra 'I'll never have kids, someone knock some sense into me if I do'. And how come parents can't just read a damned Montessori book or something!? I don't mean to come off glib - I've thought about this one a lot - actually. So I suddenly found myself falling head first into a strange idea...
Are parents even meant to be 'teachers'? Is it even possible for them to be the kinds of mentors and resources that an outside teacher can be? I don't think so.
is that dark and fatalistic?
eff you! what do you know!? :P
No, really - How - realistically - is it possible for a parent and a child to be so separate that they could recognize one another's identities in any real way?! because the primary basis of a parent child relationship is a confusion of identity - it's an extension of origin, a confusion of origin and telos - of the beginning and the end.
I don't see how anyone could remove themselves from that breakdown of subjectivity
and objectivity in order to be a good parent. In order to see the child for who they are. Well, ok, let's not be grand and sweeping and silly about it - I'm sure there are parts of a child's identity a parent can recognize and grasp - but how much of that is because they recognize it in themselves or their partner or uncle whoever, whatever? At any rate, there's a WHOLE LOTTA projecting usually going on! (ever time I say that word now, I think of how in 5 years it'll be such a dated, new age hippie term..lol)
There's no such a thing - the more you confuse and derail your child, potentially the
better. Actually, before I get hate mail on that - what I mean is, that parenthood is what it is, good or bad, it's meant to be that way, they are the beginning
of who you are - and anything positive or negative they impose on you will produce an equivalent reaction. So it's all fair.
It just - is what it is.
Family is a relation, and I don't think it needs a value judgment beyond that.
It's functional, at best.
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
Ohmygawd!
Darlings,
Isn't this fun? It needs some re-vamping, but hopefully it'll be done done soon :O
In the meantime, LOOK OUT! on account of I'm armed with recording equipment, and you never know when you'll find our conversations posted here somewheres :P
xo
S
Isn't this fun? It needs some re-vamping, but hopefully it'll be done done soon :O
In the meantime, LOOK OUT! on account of I'm armed with recording equipment, and you never know when you'll find our conversations posted here somewheres :P
xo
S
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